Growing up, I liked to invent stories. I would write and write until the pain, I was suffering, disappeared.
As an adult, I must admit that sometimes I have found myself doing the same thing: inventing stories to block the pain of unpleasant experiences. I am not talking about telling lies to loved ones or co-workers, but to myself. Have you been there too?

It is not seldom that I see clients with the same pattern. When the experience of old trauma comes to their awareness or they find themselves far away from their comfort zone, they make up a story, that helps them carry on with their everyday life from a safe, less challenging place.
Although, initially, I feel that this can be a valid coping mechanism, there is a moment when this 'victim consciousness' does no longer serve you, and you need to look at the whole picture. If you want to thrive in life, that is.
What often happens is that we put our attention to the negative situations and disregard the beauty. In other words, we see the rubbish bins overflowing in the park and we don't pay attention to the trees or the sunset.
Life is a fascinating experience. Do the work to heal your pain, but do not lose track of the love and gentleness in, and around you.
Let go.
Feel.
Be courageous.
Close your eyes and call on all the wonderful memories that dwell in your body.
Allow yourself to be amazed by your own beauty.

For times of change, I would recommend a Bach Flower combination of:
Honeysuckle: for letting go of the past
Star of Bethlehem: to heal unresolved trauma
Walnut: for adapting to new situations
Mimulus: for known fears
Willow: for victim consciousness